Friendship dilemmas: 3 perplexing problems solved

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Trish & Lorraine - we’re here for you (just don’t get in the way of our selfie!)

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Dear Lorraine & Trish,
I’m a bit bewildered: I’ve lost two stone (11st 5lbs to 9st 5lbs at 5ft 2”) since last summer (from a size 14 to a size 10) and absolutely none of my friends have commented. It’s obvious I’ve lost weight so I really can’t understand why no one has said anything. I’m feeling quite down about it in all honestly. Although I’m not losing weight for anyone other than myself, it’d be nice to get some recognition. Can you shed any light on why my friends aren’t commenting?